Women need to stop complaining -- they are the reason for the lack of "high caliber" men on college campuses.

Ronald P. Clark

The standard is set by the female. A male dresses nice to attract females. A man keeps himself up to attract females. But he will not do more than is needed to attract females, which is where the problem lies.

Women have allowed such haphazard, lazy, trifling and downright embarrassing attempts at approaching them fly for so long that men do not feel the need to improve their approaches because they don't see the reason to expend a lot of energy when the minimal effort is successful.

If I can take a test by barely glancing over my notes and still pass, that's what I'm going to do. But if I know I must reread the chapter, go over my notes multiple times and make note cards, just to pass, then I will. Women used to be the latter, now they are the former.

If all women came together and decided that they were not going to allow any more of the nonsense men are known to produce, then men would step up to the challenge and raise their games. Why? Because men want women, and getting them is their life's goal.

But if one woman will not allow nonsense, but twenty others will, well, that is not the fault of the man.

Now, I'm not saying that men do not have a part in this, because they do. But women need to realize that they have much more of a role than they think in how guys act when it comes to them. Women stay in broken down relationships with men who do not deserve them and stay in them for so long that when they finally do get out these relationships, they have a negative image that all men are like that. No, just the men you date are like that.

Immaturity exists among men and women. Time after time, a woman will detail the many downfalls of the man she's with. She continuously reels off his faults, his issues and his inability to be who she needs him to be, yet she is still with him. I understand that women are natural nurturers but after a while you have to say enough is enough.

Some women complain from beginning to end when there should have never been a beginning to begin with.

Just find someone of your maturity level and move on. If your school does not have someone like that, then look somewhere else; look deeper into the male population on campus or look at yourself and realize that maybe you have a false sense of your own maturity level.

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Posted March 26, 2008